Book: Inner demons, hidden parts we are ashamed of
Guidance: If we can release our inner demons, enormous energy will be released and darkness becomes light
It's interesting that even though I know better, my first impression of the devil is always of being under someone else's control and being abused by some external force. In reality, the devil is about giving our control away and choosing to be a victim. It is about choosing to believe the ugly words that people say about us, it is about choosing to do things that do not make us proud of ourselves, and it is choosing to believe we have no power in our lives. There are things that happen to us that are outside of our control, but all too often we choose to make those things about us when they often aren't. I'm sitting here after a client blew me off for a morning meeting for the second time in a week. Ten years ago, my reaction would have been to make it about me, but now I realize that it isn't about me at all, but is all about her. Ten years ago if someone cut me off, I would have made it personal, but now I realize it is not about me. And even if things are about me, I have a choice to believe or not believe what people say.
This is another lesson I learned in Al-Anon, that the world does not revolve around me and that choosing to be a victim is in some ways another way of being arrogant and looking for attention. While being arrogant says I'm so wonderful, being a victim says that I'm a poor pitiable creature and I need you to take care of me because I cannot take care of myself. I used to be that poor pitiable creature who needed everyone to validate that I had a right to exist. As I started to grow and heal, I realized where those ideas about myself came from and I worked hard to squash them and develop my own sense of personhood. I've learned my strengths and my weaknesses and by learning to accept all of me, I'm learning to mitigate the effects of my weaknesses.
I'm grateful that I finished my paper
I'm grateful for the awesome steaks for dinner
I'm grateful for the conversation with David
I'm grateful Scott will be able to see me next week
I'm grateful that I have work to do
I'm grateful for the conversation with Christie
I'm grateful for snuggling with Wendy
I'm grateful for the awesome salad from Zagara's